So you are expecting !!! Your friends send you congratulatory messages , fellow moms excitedly share with you the joys of many first times. This is a time of change both physically and emotionally for the expecting mom . While not as apparent the expectant father might be dealing with some changes himself , some of which are hardwired culturally , and some biologically .
Generally during the first few weeks after the baby’s birth the mother and baby spend a lot of time together . A host of endorphins bring out the nurturing nature in the mother . What about the fathers ? Recent studies suggest that the expectant fathers start experiencing hormonal changes that help them bond with the babies right around 3 weeks prior to the due date . Without going into the details , nature has an incredible mechanism to make the males less aggressive and more nurturing . However if the men are separated from their off springs these changes are less pronounced . Clearly this is good time to get your man on board to bond with baby .
In fact this bonding can begin while the baby is still in the womb . Talking to the bump is a good way to start as the baby is able to recognize your voice patterns while in the womb. Being involved in those early months of the baby’s life will encourage a good relationship with your child as s/he gets older. Unfortunately , cultural taboos and traditions makes this crucial time of bonding unavailable for many Indian women . It is time to be creative and remember quality triumphs quantity .
Even with nature giving them a helping hand a lot of fathers, especially the first timers, feel nervous about handling their newborns . The baby seems tiny and fragile and it is perfectly natural to worry about doing something wrong . This is the time to encourage him to get hands on and not hold back . Gently guide him if need be . The worst that can happen is getting your body or cloths soiled . It is something you can laugh about later . Trust me an extra sheet to wash , or a few minutes of extra clean up time now will go a long way in building relationships later .
Happy parenting !!!
Next in the series is “Top 5 tips for new fathers to bond with their babies“.
Syama is a mom of 3 energetic kids. She loves yoga, hiking , baking , solving puzzles and her kids not necessarily in that order. In her past life as a techie she solved problems in virtual world. Now she wears many hats trying to navigate the challenges faced by the modern family . During her spare time you will find her blogging on varied subjects like maths and travel .